"These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize."

Why it’s so hard for men to see misogyny (via ethiopienne)

BOOOM.  Read this if you are a dude, please.

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Yesssssss.

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Its hard for men to understand why women dont get loud & angry because they havent spent their entire lives being reprimanded whenever they take up too much space. (via pluralfloral)

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pybooty:

Coming Out Simulator 2014 - a half-true game about half-truths

Coming Out Simulator is exactly what it says it is. It’s a free-to-play conversation simulator based on/inspired by the personal story of coming out of its creator, Nicky Case.

There’s no easy answer in Coming Out Simulator, no optimal ending to be achieved if you collect the requisite amount of points. Case based the game off a pivotal moment in his own life as a teenager. And just like in real life, the moment of “coming out” in this game is traumatic no matter which way the player chooses to approach it.

Ultimately, it’s liberating as well. But that’s not what the brunt of the experience playing Coming Out Simulator is actually like. […] There’s power in exploring a fantasy like the one in Mass Effect 3, but there’s also power in being reminded that “coming out” the way one does in that game is a fantasy, and a pretty far-fetched one for many people who faced far more difficult challenges when they actually came out.

Coming Out Simulator is a game about that second experience. It’s a painful one. But it’s also a necessary one, that I think more people who’ve never had to struggle with their own sexual identity should see for themselves. 

this game made me cry omfg

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I’ve hit 1,000 followers, so here’s what you’ve all been waiting for! 
One (1) winner will receive the following:
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Overall prize value $135US
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I’ve hit 1,000 followers, so here’s what you’ve all been waiting for! 


One (1) winner will receive the following:

  • A replica tiara of your choice!
  • Pair of white satin opera-length gloves
  • Pair of earrings
  • A sampler box from Twinings teas.

Overall prize value $135US


The Rules:

  1. No giveaway blogs, please.
  2. You MUST be following me.
  3. Likes do not count! Reblogs only.
  4. Reblog as many times as you like.
  5. Giveaway ends 9/1 at 12AM EST.
  6. International entries okay!
  7. Tiara must be chosen from a list provided.

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maxkirin:

Hello, dear followers!

It is with great excitement that I finally reveal… WRITERS UNITE! A book by writers, and for writers. Made with the help of over 200 Tumblr Writers, compiled by yours truly, and with a cover by the fantastic Plaguesworth!

Best of all, though, this book is available for FREE!!!

What exactly is this eBook about? Well, here’s the gist of it:

WRITERS UNITE! is a book of writing advice, inspiration, and tips. Over 200 Tumblr authors answered the question:

"What is the one piece of advice you wish you would’ve known when you first got started writing?"

This FREE eBook is a compilation of their writing advice, and their stories. You can have access to this nexus — this fountain of knowledge — at no cost whatsoever. Take it, learn, and drink with us!

When writers unite, great things happen~ ♥︎

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"Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength."

G.D Anderson  (via narcissasmalfoy)

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"Survivors have scars. Victims have graves."

Something that I need carved in my bones. (via beagmactire)

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transrants:

gravekat:

softkats:

pizzatomb:

aside from being cissexist the whole XX = female and XY = male thing is Straight-Up Wrong

AFAB people can have XO, XXX, XXXX and XY chromosomes while AMAB people have have XXYY, XYY, and XX chromosomes and since the majority of the population never has their karyotype examined,  they’ll never know that they have one of these chromosomal quirks unless that specific combination has associated symptoms, and not all of them do. you could literally have one of the aforementioned combinations without even knowing it and meanwhile you’re insisting that all AFAB people are XX and that anyone else who has this must also be female

we could also talk about how hormonal patterns for XX persons can naturally and biologically mirror that of a typical XY person, or vis versa, which gives rise to things like androgen insensitivity disorder. here u have it, folks, an whole group of intersex people who have XY chromosomes and testicles and vulva and vagina, all grown naturally, all at the same time. 

the number of people who are intersex mirror the number of people who are born with red hair, but no one goes around trying to say that red isn’t a natural hair colour just because the phenotype doesn’t manifest in the majority of the population. 

seriously consider the bold if you are aggressively upholding the ridiculously flawed theory that is the sex and gender binary.

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Transphobic U.S. Congressman edits Wikipedia to include hate speech for Laverne Cox   

sunshien:

glutenfreevodka:

wdya:

Someone with an IP address sourcing to the House of Representatives just edited the Orange Is the New Black Wikipedia page with the telling summary of “not a woman.”

That’s right, this Congressman edited out a sentence hailing the show for including “the first ever women-in-prison narrative to be played by a real transgender woman.”  What did he replace it with?  Hate speech.

The Congressman called Cox a “man pretending to be a woman,” and linked to an offensive article by National Review Online aptly titled “Laverne Cox Is Not a Woman.”

The change has since been reversed and the IP address has been banned from editing Wikipedia for a month, but you can see the original edit he made in the link above.

The change was spotted by a Twitter bot which tweets out links any time a Congressional IP address edits Wikipedia.

Spread this like wildfire.

(articles on The A.V. Club, Yahoo, and NY Daily News)

Oh my god

i don’t know if everyone else knows about this or not, but i just went onto the twitterbot’s page and this is not just about laverne cox, someone from congress has been editing multiple articles concerning transgender people (mostly women) and laverne was probably the first trans celebrity they could think of, other edits have been made including:

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this is not just about laverne cox, do not just make it about laverne cox, this is not one person being transphobic towards a celebrity we like, there is someone in congress with an agenda of misinformation actively trying to slander the trans community through wikipedia.

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fraprucan:

"Gay. Bi. Straight, Asexual. Long ago, the sexualities lived together in harmony. Then, everything changed when the Heteros attacked. Only the Pansexuals, master of all sexualities, could stop them.”

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